I think it’s true that almost every job in the world would be better if you didn’t have to deal with people while working! Most would agree that life would be easier if you didn’t have to deal with difficult people. Of course, that’s not going to happen. You’ll never get away from situations where you’re going to have to deal with a disgruntled customer, a professional road rager, or a screaming child.
So, what do we do about it? As a martial artist I’ve been trained in kicking and punching for 23 years now but sadly kicking people isn’t a socially acceptable way to deal with a verbal confrontation (nor is it legal)! Luckily, about 7 years ago I finally found the training I needed to deal with these kinds of situations.
It was amazing! Understanding how to deal with a verbal confrontation was the missing link in my self-defense training. This skill is sorely missing in our society today. We don’t train kids or adults on how to de-escalate confrontations. We tell them to “ignore” the problem which just doesn’t work.
Is your child a Follower, Leader, or Loner?
Posted: April 14, 2017
All people fall into one of these three categories. People are either followers who only do what others want them to do. They pick the path that is set out for them. Do the normal thing, and often don’t get to really express their own interests or desires.
Of course in today’s society it seems like we have lesson followers and more loners. These are the kids (and adults) who go to work or school and then spend all their free time alone. They spend hours on the computer watching YouTube or playing online games. They find all of their identity in their lonerness. This epidemic of loneliness is causing lots of long term problems. Most, if not all, of the recent school shooting purpetrators, came from this category.
The final category of people is leaders. Now, this doesn’t mean they are in charge of large groups or are going to be corporate big-wigs. Often a leaders is just someone who knows who they are, and how to live their life on their own terms. They have dreams and aspirations that they work to achieve. They are able to influence those around them to help improve the lives of everyone they come in contact with. This is a true leader and something we should all aim to be.